Can I truly be myself if I keep looking for external validation?
I can’t control other people’s thoughts. I can’t control outcomes. I won’t experience success or failure until it’s upon me. There are some things that are beyond my control.
Why try to manipulate my brain power, if I can’t control what I can’t control?
Surely, I’ll get tired faster, leading towards failure.
If I try to control, how am I being present in the now?
Other people’s thoughts are their own. Thoughts are just thoughts. They come and go. Other people’s perspectives are different to my own. We may look at the same piece of art and see and feel different things. We may watch the same film, at the same time, in the same screen. You may have an insight. I may not. It was just an alright film to me.
How can I become attached to other people’s expectations, reactions or values when they’re not mine?
To be myself and to act in accordance with my values; I need to release other people’s validations. I am the one that is happy doing what I love. I’m the one experiencing the emotions, completing the actions. I’m the only one who can be me.
#3 Release others values, expectations and reactions – Molly Mahar