Life, Stratejoy, Writing

Do you have Core Values?

During my life coaching course, having values and beliefs has been one of its topics. I’ve thought about my own before when doing The Joy Equation with Molly Mahar.

These Core Values were:

Balance: have control, things spilt easily – family, work, friends, love, life. never stressing about getting everything done.

Connection: concentrate. meet up with friends and family. open up to them.

Radiance: share the love. be who I am on the inside; outside. be fun, warm, loving.

Acceptance: accept who I am. those who need to/for me to be someone else have to accept me for me or else I don’t need them in my life. accept the situations I am in.

Simplicity: only have, do, concentrate, on the things that matter. do not have to do what is not needed

Laughter: do the things I love. spend time with family and friends. be outside.

Adventure: do things I enjoy. be outside. travel the world. go exploring. learn to do new things. get out of my comfort zone.

Health: Look after me. eat healthily. exercise. enjoy life.

I figured out these core values. I made a mini collage of them.

What did I do with these values once I finalised them?

Put them away in my trunk.

I’m not living in synch with my values there am I?

I’m not going to be rewarded with joy, integrity and ease. I’m not gonna live life through them if I don’t have them in sight daily.

These core values were created nearly a couple of years ago now.

When completing my Life Coaching Course I wrote the following to be the values I wanna live by:

I want to live with integrity and authenticity. I want ot have the values of creativity, laughter and balance in my life.

Comparing the two, laughter and balance, are the two words that show up in both. Although I haven’t used the rest, all the words in both still resonate with me. I have the values, but I need to live them out in my life.

What I would love is to have a collage /vision board type idea incorporating all these words to have on one of the walls I’d see each day in the house when it’s completed. Knowing this I have the time to really find and create the perfect one for me.

Having this up and seeing will remind me of my values. This doesn’t necessarily mean I’ll live by the values but I can’t think this way. Seeing it daily will allow me to think positively. The words and the feelings I got from them will bubble in me.

Having a good feeling will help me live by my values. Which in term will show the difference in how I live, doing what I want. Living my life authentically.

I’ve been able to make a little collage with pictures that I believe represent my values. I’ve so far only been able to find something that will allow only 16 photos to make one. Then I haven’t been able to find somewhere that can print it off as yet.


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Health, Life, Writing

A Little Under the Weather

Two more working days to go before our annual leave starts. It’ll be good to recuperate. I’ve got that lovely cold, that’s going around. Plus my stomach is playing up. I’ve an embarrassing problem on top of that.

I’ve a blood test next week, an ultrasound scan to book and I’m to have my urine dipped.

I’m sat here wanting to crawl into bed and not get out again.

Maybe that’ll get it all better?

Nah, didn’t think so.

House update: Apparently the vendor solicitors have sent over the draft contract and something else, I can’t remember the name of, but still wanting for property information forms. They’ve started. I just have to wait a little longer.

I just hope I sleep tonight, better than the last. It took me a long time to fall asleep. I even gave up and read my book at one point. It’s not a thrilling book, maybe that’s what’s helping me sleep?

Tomorrow is another day. It’ll be a new start. Let’s hope I’ll be able to breathe through my nose.


Life, Mental Health, Writing

Do you embrace your emotions?

Being positive can be hard some days. Everyone may say we need to be positive all the time.

I say we don’t.

I say we need to be ourselves.

Be honest.

There are days when shit hits the fan. Having a positive outlet may or may not help the situation.

There are times:

When anger will bubble inside of us.

When we need to let those tears fall.

When no matter what happens the smile cannot be removed from our faces.

We need to feel our emotions. We need to take responsibility for any consequences that come from acting on our emotions.

Emotions will have a butterfly effect on our lives. Also on those around us.

Feeling our emotions or not will make a huge difference to our mental health. Closing them away, locking up and throwing away the key will only delay the inevitable.

The good, the bad, the ugly. Our emotions need to be felt, be dealt with and overcome.  They are a big part of what makes us, us.

We need to be kind to ourselves.

They will always be within us.

We are not alone.

Please love yourself.

Please feel your emotions.

Please talk, write or create your way through them.

Please don’t run away from your emotions.

Embrace them. 

Events, Goals, Life, Writing

Demi Lovato Concert

OMG! What a night!

I’ve laughed, cried, danced and sang my heart out. All thanks to Demi Lovato concert in Manchester with my best mate, E.

I’ll be surprised if I have a voice in the morning. But it was worth it. I’d do it all again.

Below is all the photos I took, as I wanted to be in the moment, enjoy every moment of it.

I 100% did.

When she’s next back in town, I’d love to go again.

Friendships, Goals, Life, Writing

Long Overdue Catch-up

I can’t wait. In 2 days my best mate is coming to stay. We’re off to see Demi Lovato in concert.

From the sounds of it my friend, E has been having a bad time of it. Effecting her mental health. It will be good to have a proper catch-up. It’s been nearly 2 years since we last saw each other.

We write to one another regularly. E and I met in year 7; we were in the same form at school and did ICT together. Out of all our school friends, we’ve stuck around for one another.

At the right time, I want to ask her to be my maid of honour. It will be long overdue when we see each other. The eeks are bubbling.

Health, Life, Mental Health, Writing

My Mental Health is a Major Part of Me

We’ve started doggie sitting for the in-laws. Well, this evening really. We’ve both been working during the day.

When I had finished, knowing I needed to get our bags before going to my in-laws, I was getting stressed. Trying to rush or having that rushed feeling within me, preventing myself from being calm. To enjoy my evening off with Dave and the dogs.

After sorting ourselves out and having dinner, we took the dogs for a walk. It made me feel like we should do this more often both with or without the dogs. Especially during good weather.

Spend more time outside. I want to be healthy, to travel and to make a difference in the world. I can’t do that if I’m sat inside watching telly all the time, can I?

Being outside will keep me fit. Not just physically but mentally too. My mental health is a major part of me. I am the one who needs to take action to maintain my wellbeing. No one can do it for me or help me without me helping myself first.