Books, Goals, Life, Writing

Book: Deep Work by Cal Newport + No Social Media: 8 Months

I’ve just put down the book Deep Work by Cal Newport. I say put it down but I’ve not read it all. I found the book too much research for me.

I believe deep work should be utilised more in professional and even in our personal lives. Just think of all the things we could do in the world if we had periods of deep work scheduled within our days.

I started off being able to read the book as normal. However, once I got to chapter 3 of part 1, I started skipping bits. I read the main points and parts that stood out for me. The quit social media rule certainly did.

For me, who has quit social media, had a bit more of a connection with personal stories. Then the research took over for my liking.

I made the decision to deactivate my social media and also resigned from being a social media volunteer at the animal charity I volunteer at still on 1st November 2017. 8 months free of social media, I do feel more freedom. I’m talking to and seeing friends and family more.

The bad news, the comparisons and my mental health have stopped/improved because of taking this step away. I feel at times, that I should go back, maybe do things differently but then I think that’ll be more trouble than its worth. The people I want, and those who want, to be in my life are around me.

I’m living my life my way and not comparing. stressing or believing I’m behind in life or doing the wrong things. I stay in my comfort zone. There are times I want to stretch out and do things I want to or scare me. There are times that writing and publishing posts are getting out of my comfort zone.

Before I had the belief and negative thoughts that I couldn’t do any of this because of judgements and words of other people, especially those I grew up with and don’t even talk to any more.

I use my blog as my online platform. There are times when I want to be more within the community, other days just happy posting and that’s it.

There were a couple months at the start of 2018 I did set up a new Facebook account so I could be apart of the FB lives for my UCP course. Even that didn’t last for me. I deactivated that too. All the lives were recorded and placed on my portal. I did some comments etc but it wasn’t resonating with me.

I went back to Facebook for that because I thought I should do. I didn’t need to. I feel that I’d be happy not to be on social media now for the rest of my life. If that’s the case, we’ll see what the future holds.

But for now, I’m happy without social media. I’m happy saying no to going back on. I wouldn’t do it if a job entailed it. I clearly wouldn’t be doing the right job for me.

Life, Mental Health, Writing

How Much is Your Mental Health Worth?

One of my priority tasks for this quarter that I set myself was to complete my CBT course. I believe I paid around £40; I got it on a discount.

Last week I did look at it. Instead of reading the modules, I started completing some of the end of module tests. I believe, if I remember correctly I did around 5 of them, passing mostly on the second attempt.

They are multiple choice questions and I can do them as many times till I’ve passed. But my heart isn’t in it. It wasn’t at the time of completing the tests last week either. I’m unsure if I want to do anything further with it. I haven’t a need to fuel me forwards with it. I have until this November.

Today, I did some of my UCP course that I’ve paid a good £1600 towards. This I have lifetime access to, I suppose for as long as the coach allows it to be available. I feel more of a motivation to do this course. And possibility down the line others I have access to.

Whether I become a life coach or not, it’s helping me understand my thoughts and the world’s thoughts around me. It’s an improvement on myself and my own mental health, which is a great investment. I’m now on month 3 of 6. It’s been a few good months since I last went onto the course.

My mental health is worth any investment I am fuelled to do. If I feel good about it and the task at hand resonates with me, then I’m going to give it my best.

Writing is another way I’ve found and fallen in love with. I’ve received the Happy Anniversary 1 year achievement on WordPress. I have written for a whole year, every day apart from about 3 days. As of writing this in one year I’ve had 1411 visitors, 2150 views and I’ve written 393 pots.

Even though I missed a couple of days, I’ve written more post then days since July 2017.

Guess what?

I feel so much better now then I did then!

Writing has been a major factor in that. I’d like to say a big thank you to all visitors to my blog. I’m not one for daily statistics or publishing my blog. It’s all natural flow through WordPress and I guess beyond sometimes. I don’t have social media, so you get here somehow.

I thank you for taking your time to read, like, comment and share. I hope this next year in writing helps even more ❤

Life, Writing

Wedding Venue Official

I’ve had confirmation the ‘be my bridesmaid’ card is on its way. Which falls nicely with putting the monies down for our venue deposit. It is now official. We’re getting married at The Holmefield Arms.

I got results from my blood test regarding the coeliac test; it has come back negative. So we can assume my stomach issues are to do with IBS. I’ll have to look into it more at some point.

We are expecting some documents from our solicitors. Hopefully tomorrow these will come.

Our day was quiet in us doing things. We watched 3 films, 2 of which are now going to charity. We had a walk into town to get fresh air and so some daily movement. We also continued with the card game. Unfortunately, the villains won year 7, at times I wasn’t fully paying attention to the game.

My attention was on Groupon. I bought some stainless steel straws, with the plastic ones being harmful to the environment and the paper ones getting paper in my mouth, I thought I’d give them a go. I also brought paintbrushes; seeing as we’re buying a house I think they’ll get used.

Watched: 300 > 3 out of 5

Goals, Life, Writing

Away from the Telly

The feeling good feeling has continued into today. I’ve had moments where my mind has gone on a tangent but I’ve been able to bring it back to the present.

Once up and ready, Dave and I went into town. We did some shopping, had lunch and visited The Hepworth Gallery. This trip was our third to the gallery this year. Now we’ve seen the main showings twice.

We’re now going over to see the limited time exhibitions. This time there were 2 artists works, not just the one there normally is. Both different but compliment each other. Now the next time we go will be past October. We may get another visit before the year is out.

As its No Telly Tuesday, without realising at first what Dave was doing, he was supporting me with this without me reminding him of such. It made me appreciate him.

We played my new game; Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle Deck-Building game. Yesterday the villains won in year 5, we decided to start again with year 5. This time we won 5 and 6 but paused during year 7.

We did have breaks again, we took the dogs to the vets and then on a walk, got over 10,000 steps. We had dinner and had a mini catch up with my dad.

I also rung the estate agents for an update; all the paperwork is now with our solicitor, the searches can now be done. Hopefully, we won’t have to wait much longer.

I finished reading The Secret by Rhonda Bryne. Well, I am getting that book. I felt joyful reading through. It’s helped me to be happy, changing my mind set by understand the secret. I like that when reading, it can be picked up, start from the beginning or choose a section. I can feel and understand why it has helped so many people around the world.

I created, well I went onto Moonpig and personalised a ‘be my bridesmaids’ card for E. I wanted to do something a bit more special then just sending a text message. I feel she’ll say yes.

Life, Writing

Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday to me.

I should also say Happy Birthday for my journaling and blog. It’s was around this time last year that I started writing and sharing all via this blog.

I’ve had a very good day. I’ve had some lovely presents. One of which Dave and I spent playing most of the day. Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle Deckbuilding game. I love the way it’s different from the DC/Marvel deckbuilding games Dave has.

It flows in the years they spent at Hogwarts. We were in year 5 when the villains won. We did have a couple of breaks. One we went for a walk into town. Grabbed a few bits and went to my grandparents to say thank you. The second break was to have dinner.

After all the excitement of the game, we watched a film. We are currently watching all our films to see if we love/hate them. Well, I say hate, its a strong word, I think if we didn’t like them we wouldn’t have bought them in the first place.

A few have been given to charity, there are three definites laying waiting for their new home and there is one maybe. I can’t make my mind up about ‘The Crazies’. I’ll come back to that again another day.

I’ve felt the goodness of the day. Allowing myself to feel all the good and positivity within me as well as outside of me. Helping others were I can. I stayed in this morning to allow someone to come for something my mum was selling. Another I don’t know the outcome but tried to help as much as I could. I hope the lady arrived at her friends’ house.

Happy Birthday to all that was born on this day, in whichever year. Here’s to another year.

Events, Family, Life

Celebrating 1st Birthdays

We stayed at Daves parents last night as we went to friends to watch a film. It was nice being able to sleep in until I needed to get out of bed. With his parents being considerate about how much noise they produced so not to wake us up.

We did need to get out of bed as it was my nieces 1st birthday party. Maybe its because I don’t have kids but I’m not understanding going all out for the 1st birthday.

But being positive and celebrating the good things in life is a way of doing that. So I suppose celebrating her birthday is good all round for those around her.

Even though she may not have the memory of the party, having those good feelings and vibes around her is a good thing for her. Looking at it that way a 1st birthday should be celebrated.

The rest of the day I was able to change the bad feelings I’ve been holding onto into the good. Reading The Secret was a help to that.

Watched: Skyscraper > 3.5 out of 5

Life, Writing

How to Relax in my Own Home

I want to know how it is to relax in my own home.

Not having to walk on eggshells. Not having to fret about saying or doing the wrong thing.

Starting to feel I can be myself, even a little bit just to get shot down again. Made to feel I don’t live or even belong under the roof I’m under.

Not being able to live the life I wanna live. Not being able to come back to sleep in my own bed after seeing friends.

Having my own freedom. Having somewhere I can call home and it is meant.

To relax. Be comfortable. To be me to the fullest.

Watched: Quantum of Solace > 2 out of 5
American Assassin > 3.5 out of 5