Family, Life

We’ve Booked Rome

I was a bit disheartened when my mum told me she’s going to cancel the weekend away in December so that’s she’s around for my grandparents. I’m sad about not going but I fully understand my grandparents take priority.

It’s going to be a 6 week recovery time. I’ve given myself a headache but looking for a 4 night get away in march to enjoy for Dave and I. We’ve decided on Rome. Something to look forward to.

Watched: The Terminal > 3.5 out of 5.

Family, Life

Taking Some Time for Family

I was surprised when I called work to get a couple days off to help my grandparents that it happened. All sorted just like that. That hasn’t happened before.

My grandad needs a pacemaker and be bad his date; in 10 days time. Seeing as my grandad is the sole carer of my grandma he won’t or should I say we won’t let him take full responsibility for my grandma when he’s had his operation.

My step-dad is taking the day off to take my grandad too and from the hospital. My mum has 3 days off that week, I’ve been able to get the other 2. Then I’m on annual leave after a couple days work.

This is gonna be a quiet month work wise which is gonna help break up the time till I start my new job. I’m also slowly getting somewhere with getting the best for my customers. Some times I think the organisation cares about themselves. Small victories; I’ll take.

It’s now 2 days off. The house takes priority.

Watched: The Holiday Calender > 3.5 out of 5

Family, Life, Mental Health

Trying to go deeper in my writing

I’ve had moments or days over the past couple of weeks where I’ve retreated into my head. I’ve had no words. I’ve felt sorry for myself. I’m getting myself to the point I’m exhausted I can’t do anything but sleep.

I’ve a lot going on in my life. I don’t always face them when I should. I like to hide from the issues in my life. This isn’t something I wanna do. It’s like a habit I can’t shake. When I wrote that Taylor Swift song Shake it off came into my head. Then the Dwayne Johnson lip sing of that song came into my head. 

My mind likes to wander off. Whether its the right time or not. There are times I can over embellish my problems. Is that the right meaning? I can also talk a lot of crap too. At this point, I started going through my journal. 

I get mind blanks. I think of an event in the future and think of scenarios, making my anxiety levels go up.

How was my life today?

It’s not a good feeling for me to wake to have to defrost my car. I’ve never been a big fan of the cold. The only thing I like about winter is Christmas and I feel that’s all a fantasy in my head.

I had two customer calls then back home for me. I did a week’s worth of mileage, which took me an hour and a half. While messaging people and organising my pre-employment meeting for tomorrow.

I found that the security software people were taking £70 out of my account because of my control issues and trying to take over things this time last year. Thanks to my step-dad that is all resolved.

I’ve started or should I say I’ve started to continue watching Once Upon a Time again. I’m on season 3.

But then I needed to go back to a customer. The final one of the day. Three customers all before lunch ending? Not what I call a job in my books. In the respect that I wanna work a whole shift in one go over a number of hours and not go in and out like I’m currently doing.

While at that customer my mum asked if I could go to my grandparents earlier then I had planned so I said yes. Plus my mum had an appointment.

On my way there I spoke to my dad. Since his diagnoses with Multiple Sclerosis, a couple of years ago we’ve spoken more honest with each other and more often. How bad is it that a long-term health condition can be the reason to bring people closer together.

Once I got to my grandparents I was there for a good four hours. At a time I had, I’m not sure but is resentment the right word. The wanting to run away but I’m trapped, why can’t my mum come to tag me out feelings. Just admitting that makes me feel like the worse granddaughter ever.

My grandma has Alzheimer’s. She has shakes and her balance isn’t the best. She needs to have someone around 24/7 to ensure she’s safe. My grandad is her sole carer. He is in need of a pacemaker and has been needing corrections with his eyes.

It took me and mum, months to get grandad to agree to get carers in. We have them now every morning and twice a week in an afternoon. Today was one of those days, the reason I ended up going earlier than planned was due to the carer running late and not knowing when they would get there so my grandad cancelled.

That time is for my grandad to have a break. We didn’t want this taken away from him, so, hello me. My grandad was able to go swimming, do an odd job, then go to his eye appointment as was the original plan. That meant I got to spend time with my grandma.

Once I got home, I got frustrated with Dave as he didn’t see the text about starting dinner while I was on my way home. I quickly got over that. Once dinner was done, we watched a few more episodes of the Netflix original TV series Scream. A few more sittings and we’ll have finished it.

Having a heart to heart isn’t our thing. I’ve brought up the lack of communication before with Dave. I don’t want to keep sounding like a broken record. Most of that I believe is in my head; down to me retreating into my head. I suppose I find it hard to think of things to say or how to bring up conversations as it is.

I suppose that is the reason why I started journaling in the first place. I also believe this is the longest plus deepest I’ve gone in my writing. Full honesty discloser here. Maybe it’ll help me sleep at night. But then again it’s me feeling cold that’s preventing that. I think this is my honestly for one day. But I know I need to do it more.

Family, Life

‘Bringing the Happy Memories Back’

This weekend I honoured a value of mine; family. My parents went away for the weekend. The first trip they’ve been able to go in this year, without the weather or death preventing them.

They went but mum said she’d be back to sit with grandma like normal today. I told her no. I would do that then they could do as they wished rather then having to be back. My parents had a lovely weekend away and I got to spent time with my grandparents.

It’s hard being with someone who has dementia. I feel it takes up till when it’s effecting someone you love. My grandma was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a couple of years ago.

It’s hard to see her sometimes, more so for the memories that she believes are the present. It’s great when it’s good ones. Like today when putting a Jim Reeves CD on and she’s saying she embarrasses my grandad for singing at him.

But there are time memories make her cry. Believing her sister died, when in fact it was 15 years earlier. Seeing her relive the pain over is heartbreaking. It’s nice and great to cherish her singing with a smile on her face bringing the happy memories back.

Watched: Friday the 13th part 2 and 3 > both 1 out of 5

Family, Life

‘What Happens to the Dog?’

We’re unable to go do this at the house now by ourselves. We don’t have the skills to do so. It’s a waiting game now. As the electrician starts tomorrow, we’ve bought the light switches and sockets needed and our plans so he’ll know what to do.

As we’ve nothing to do for the home. We decided to go to the cinema. It’s the 1st time in a good couple months since the last time.

I enjoyed The Predator. I’m not sure if I’ve seen the others. The only point I made was ‘What Happened to the Dog?’ He was running towards the boy until his dad grabs him. Then that’s it. We don’t see him again. What happens? Disappearing into thin air?

We got news from my grandad from his cardio appointment that he’s been told he needs a pacemaker. I don’t know much about the causes etc. But I’m guessing with the stress with my grandma isn’t helping. It’ll be nice to have some good news with family health for a change.

Watched: The Predator > 3.5 out of 5

Halloween (1978) > 2 out of 5

Family, Life

A Goodbye

Today was a wake up to go to Malcolm’s funeral. My great uncle. Seeing him in hospital bed throughout the year. It’s sad to say goodbye but he’s in a better place. Pain free.

After the service and wake. I dealt with the debt from the gas meter that was left from the previous owners. Thankfully after so much too-ing and fro-ing we got there in the end.

I was pottering around. I didn’t know what to do with myself. So my mum told me to get my coat, we’re off shopping. I ended up with a microwavable heated bear, as a treat.

I spent quite a bit on lighting for the house. The house lights still not covered. Once home, dinner made and eaten, I decided to chill with some telly.

My step-dad came up to talk to me about radiators. We need all new and then money was spent. We may not have all the lights for the house but least we’ll have heat for the winter. Well we will once all the pipes go back into the house.

The skip is arriving tomorrow. It’s a good job seeing we have 3 rooms with things to go into it.

I’m working in the morning. But I’ll be able to join in for the afternoon. See how far my mum gets, to help her along. Maybe this weekend we’ll get everything stripped wallpaper wise. See how far we get.

Everyone is asleep before me again this evening. Let’s see if I get a full through the night sleep.

Family, Life, Writing

Take Advantage of Spare Time

Even though I’ve been at work throughout the day, I’ve still had time to go to family events. I even had time to relax too. Me relaxing with watching telly for half an hour.

We attended Daves nephews 1st birthday party for an hour. I helped out where I could. I have met his sister’s friends before at her baby shower but I still not myself comfortable social wise.

When home we had a family meal before I had to head back to work. For once my rota allowed me to balance parts of my life together. I took full advantage of that. Tomorrow I’ve only been given a short day which means we can go to our house to do some work. My parents and Dave’s parents may meet for the 1st time too.