Goals, Life

Quarter 1 Goals for 2019

The reflection challenge for week 3 is to make a small step for each of the big goals that I can do immediately. I have made them this evening and will aim to do all three tomorrow:

  1. Buy paint for the kitchen
  2. Walk the dogs
  3. Research ways can inhabit my body

All I’ve got to do for week 3 and to finish HoCo for another year, is to create my quarter 1 goals.

I’ve decided my first is to Make Our Home Liveable. The time is right to get out home to the point we can live in it. It won’t be complete but least we can do bits and pieces while we’re in and can afford it.

The following are action items I am starting with for this goal:

  • Radiators on
  • Gas Service
  • Junction Boxes
  • Paint the kitchen
  • Concrete hole
  • Screed floor
  • Second Plasterer
  • Paint the bathroom
  • Tile the Kitchen floor
  • Kitchen fitted

There are loads more to do but these can be seen on my vision board below. Plus there is only so much I can do at once.

My second goal is to do small actions to feel more comfortable in my body:

  • Research actions
  • Choose a couple to do each week
  • Reflect how I felt

More actions may come up once I’ve researched but right now this is what I’ve got.

By doing this writing I’ve come to finish week 3 naturally. I’m feeling positive about completing my goals for the new year. I believe Bloom is gonna be my year! The year of mastery and/or destruction. Every quarter there is a review call with HoCo. But I’d like to reflect on what I’m doing through my writing. I think this will help me; I just need my goals in sight.

I’ve put them onto a whiteboard which is currently on a shelf in our bedroom. I see it being in the kitchen when we’re in our house. The two boards side by side; one my vision board, the other the house board.

My aim for tomorrow is to complete the 3 actions steps I’ve set myself.


Watched: Rough Night > 1.5 out of 5
Mortal Engines > 3.5 out of 5

Goals, Life, Stratejoy

Big 3 Goals for 2019

Week 3 of HoCo is near an end. I’ve only just started but I feel I’ve got a lot done from this weeks call considering that I wasn’t ready for it yesterday. To tell the truth I don’t think I was 100% ready today. I’ve had some goals running around my head for the last few days. I think that’s what’s spurred me on a bit to complete the call.

After a couple of hours, I’ve come up with my 3 goals:


All three connect to my theme and ways of being. From these, I’m hoping 2019 will be my year for growth and destruction! I’m not finished all of week 3 as yet, I’ve still got the challenges, guest interviews but also I need to sit and think of my 2 quarterly goals for Q1.

I feel one should be to do with my house; get to the point where I can move in by the end of the quarter. Another I feel could be with related with learning to inhabit my body, possibly to find small ways/activities that I can start trying out to see what I think. Wait, stop, I’ve set the goal to get out of my head meaning think is the wrong word. To see what I feel and take from the new experiences.

I believe I’ve found a blog post of 20 ways to get in touch with my body. I might give them a try.

I now have my NVQ certificates. It’s taken a long 6 months, more hard work then the qualification itself. But they are now in my possession. One thing less I now have to think about. I guess my goal of Getting Shit Done is happening.

Watched: The Christmas Prince: A Royal Wedding > 4 out of 5

Goals, Life, Personal Development, Stratejoy

Vision Board 2019

With today’s No Telly Tuesday, I’ve been determined to Get Shit Done. I’ve done 3 more BSL Video Series posts. I’m now set up until Feb 2019. If I have some more on a role day like today I’ll get it finished by the end of the year. All will be done ready for publishing in 2019. Then that is a goal that can be checked off my list.

I’ve printed off my vision collage and started my 2019 board.

Once I’ve finished week 3 of HoCo I should have 3 goals for the year to add plus I’ll then have to decide on my quarterly goals too.

I know there are 3 weeks left of 2018 but I’m ready for the new year. I’m feeling the determination. I just hope it doesn’t make my mind wired for bedtime.

I got a few more to-dos done. We’re all set now for our Rome holiday in March. I just have to figure out where I’d like to visit and holiday money.

I’ve now 12 more work days until I finished my current job. I’m feeling positive about the future.

Goals, Learning, Life

BSL Video Series: Family Members

This post in the BSL Video Series shows the signs that I learnt when learning the members of a family. As there are a few in this video, I have decided to have this one video for this post, then in the next one, I can move onto showing signs for describing family members.

Some of the signs you’ll see incorporate the fingerspelling of the Alphabet. If you would like to recap, click here.

On to the family members video:


The video for this post shows the following words:


Previous: Work Signs

Next: Describing Vocab

Goals, Life, Personal Development, Stratejoy

Theme and Ways of Being for 2019

The past two years of completing HoCo, there’s been one workbook page I’ve struggled to complete. This year hasn’t been any different. The, where do I feel… And who do I need… prompt page is still a mind black.

Even that being the case I have finished week 2 worksheets. Meaning I am happy with my theme for 2019 and my ways of being. These are:

Theme: BLOOM

> Come into my full self in a beautiful and healthy way “Bloom Bright”

Ways of Being:

1. Pleasure

> Have a happy satisfaction and enjoyment in what I do. Give and receive sexual enjoyment.

2. Peaceful

> Free from overwhelm, frustration, bad habits, guilty feelings. Have a sense of peace within me.

3. Open

> Don’t put restrictions on myself. Accept changes and new ideas. No secrets. Be upfront and to the point.

4. Evolve

> Develop gradually in my new starts, learning and inner work.

5. Bold

> Take risks, be confident, courageous, free from fear and my thoughts stopping me from living my dreams.

Now all I have left are the week 2 challenges. One is to make a vision board that relates to my theme and ways of beings. I’ve just read the second to realise I’ve completed; to finalise my theme and ways of being. I better get creating, then week 2 is complete.

Watched: Wreak it Ralph 2 > 2 out of 5

Goals, Life

Back on Facebook

I’ve felt good today; more myself. I’ve got some decluttering done. Returned some broken bedding. The bike is gone. Our bedroom feels a lot bigger not seeing it blocking up the pathway.

I did a big thing too; after 1 year and 1 month away from social media, I’ve made the decision to go back to Facebook. I originally activated my old one but decided I wanted a clean slate. I started up a second one. Where I add/accept only family and the people close to me. The posts will be on my terms and working on being myself around other people on a different platform. If I’m feeling I’m going down the old road again I’m taking another break from it.

Goals, Life, Personal Development

Shift Plan Review

In October 2017, I completed The Shift Plan created by Kate Swoboba. The tool was helpful to get an idea for what I wanted to change. But once I wrote it up, I didn’t look at it again other then put in my calendar to review this past October. Well, it’s clearly past October and I’ve had it on my task list since. After listening to this second interview for week 1 HoCo, one of the questions Elizabeth Dialto asks herself:

What would I never what to do again or resent?

The shift plan review being on my task list and me seeing it each day is one of them for me. So I thought I’d do it right now, then that’s it. Being week 1 of HoCo and reviewing the past year it’ll be good to look at a different route to make me see the past as a whole. To look at the original post: click here. I am going to do each in its categories again like the original to separate it more clearly.

Personal Growth/Fulfilment/How I feel about me:

Easeful, patient and gentler with myself; I had moments of this and I choose easeful was as a goal for the year but I have committed to this 100%? I do become hard on myself and by overwhelming myself. I’ve been stressed not easeful. I believe I have worked well on the being confident in my abilities, speaking up for myself and to be proud, work on my goals and be me. I feel more like I’m becoming myself and speaking up for what I believe in. I’m being more honest with myself, open with writing and to my loved ones. On the score out of 10 for this slide of the shift plan I would give myself a 7 for being me, confident in my abilities and speaking up for myself. The difference I’d like to see and realise in myself is working on being easeful, patience and gentler with myself.

Intimate and Romantic Relationships

Looking at the statement from October 2017, I’m sticking with 2 out of 10 that I gave myself in yesterday’s post. I haven’t worked on my intimate pleasure. Although I’m being more patient with my partner’s limitations.

Personal Relationships/Friendships

I’d give myself a 5 out of 10; I have been cherishing my friendships. Making more time for them. I’ve begun to say no when it’s something I don’t want to do or like to do. Leading me to not keep promises I know I couldn’t keep. That way I keep the promises I do make. So far I feel this is the first category I have been doing completely.


I don’t currently have stability and love for my job at the same time. I have periods of loving the job when I’m with customers but the job as a whole, I don’t. I’ve no stability but with the new job starting in the new year I’m hoping this will change.


With the job I’m currently in, I don’t have control over my income as my hours vary, causing me uncertainty what comes in at the end of each month. That hasn’t stopped me budgeting, saving, going on holidays and trips out to have the experiences that make me happy. Again this new job will allow me to have more control as I’ll know the exact amount each month. Plus if need be I can do extra shifts. Being at ease with my income might be insight.

Even though I haven’t been consciously working on the plan itself most are things in my life I’ve wanted to work on. By doing this review I’ve completed the goal which I can cross off. Allowing me to focus on what week 2 and 3 of HoCo bring me. I am putting not being easeful, patient and gentle on myself and no exploring a new level of intimacy and pleasure on my leaving behind in 2018. These are things I want to work on in years to come.

There were a couple other things j wanted to note from what I took away from the guest interview.

1. Not overthinking, making up stories on things that haven’t happened or I feel I can observe and be respective of. If I need to know more it’ll come to me. Land in my consciousness when it needs to be.

2. There are priorities that are not needed over function, for example, I don’t need to have a blow out/be a baby about things. Let’s say I’m hungry, I have things to make a pasta bake in the house but I fancy a pizza takeaway. Most of the time I need to prioritise making the pasta bake. It’ll save me money and I can go to the supermarket the next day to buy a pizza. The time it takes to make a pasta bake is similar to the time it’ll take a pizza to arrive. Plus a lot cheaper. Prioritise the best for me at the time.

I’ve never finished the exercise bike declutter for my declutter challenge as someone is due to collect it this evening. Week 1 is gonna soon been 100% complete.