Goals, Life, Personal Development, Stratejoy

Vision Board 2019

With today’s No Telly Tuesday, I’ve been determined to Get Shit Done. I’ve done 3 more BSL Video Series posts. I’m now set up until Feb 2019. If I have some more on a role day like today I’ll get it finished by the end of the year. All will be done ready for publishing in 2019. Then that is a goal that can be checked off my list.

I’ve printed off my vision collage and started my 2019 board.

Once I’ve finished week 3 of HoCo I should have 3 goals for the year to add plus I’ll then have to decide on my quarterly goals too.

I know there are 3 weeks left of 2018 but I’m ready for the new year. I’m feeling the determination. I just hope it doesn’t make my mind wired for bedtime.

I got a few more to-dos done. We’re all set now for our Rome holiday in March. I just have to figure out where I’d like to visit and holiday money.

I’ve now 12 more work days until I finished my current job. I’m feeling positive about the future.

Goals, Life, Personal Development, Stratejoy

Theme and Ways of Being for 2019

The past two years of completing HoCo, there’s been one workbook page I’ve struggled to complete. This year hasn’t been any different. The, where do I feel… And who do I need… prompt page is still a mind black.

Even that being the case I have finished week 2 worksheets. Meaning I am happy with my theme for 2019 and my ways of being. These are:

Theme: BLOOM

> Come into my full self in a beautiful and healthy way “Bloom Bright”

Ways of Being:

1. Pleasure

> Have a happy satisfaction and enjoyment in what I do. Give and receive sexual enjoyment.

2. Peaceful

> Free from overwhelm, frustration, bad habits, guilty feelings. Have a sense of peace within me.

3. Open

> Don’t put restrictions on myself. Accept changes and new ideas. No secrets. Be upfront and to the point.

4. Evolve

> Develop gradually in my new starts, learning and inner work.

5. Bold

> Take risks, be confident, courageous, free from fear and my thoughts stopping me from living my dreams.

Now all I have left are the week 2 challenges. One is to make a vision board that relates to my theme and ways of beings. I’ve just read the second to realise I’ve completed; to finalise my theme and ways of being. I better get creating, then week 2 is complete.


Watched: Wreak it Ralph 2 > 2 out of 5

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HoCo Week 2 Call Thoughts

I believe I have my theme for 2019 and my ways of being. But I want to make 100% sure I’m ready before I publish them. Week 2 call asked new questions about what it is time for right now in our life and the different slices. Here are my thoughts from them:

I want to be me to the fullest. Be true to my dreams and heart. I bailed my time, my family, my loved ones, the experiences around me. I value my kindness and to the point process. I want others to treat me the way I want myself to be seen. I deserve respect and kindness back to me.

I want to feel calm, the senses of growing/learning about myself and the world around me. Seeing the different lives/ways of living that there is. Being streamlined to stop feeling overwhelmed, the frustration. Letting go of the shoulds and musts of getting this or that that done.

I’m craving the sun on my face, the wind in my hair, the rain on my skin, laughter and uninterrupted happiness. I want to believe in myself, my confidence, my skills and achievements. I want to feel comfortable in my own body and take away caring what others think of me.

When I looked at the different slices of life I came up with things I might want to work on in 2019. Such as; really connecting with Dave, moving into our house, starting my new job and figuring out where I want to go. A community with my blog and being comfortable in my body.

But why can’t I have what I want?

Because I’m currently in a state of overwhelm, frustration and losing myself.

Because I care what others thing of me and my actions. Making me feel I’m going over the top. Then there’s financial restraints and believing in myself and my confidence.

Because I have old beliefs such as I am unable to do what I want, not experienced enough, having the knowledge, that I’m not good enough. I should be doing what others expect of me.

The main part of the call that ultimately got me to my theme was my future visualisation. During this visualisation I felt at peace, a sense of calmness and that everything is in its tight place.

I was in my new home, pretty much complete. Knowing where everything was, with no clutter. I had a bright aura around me. I looked happy and healthy. Then I turned into a sunflower but could still see me. I was shining brightly. My future self gave me a silver infinity necklace.

With all that from week 2 call I feel I’m on the right path. I’m gonna do some more work on week 2 then I should know if I’ve chosen what feels right to me for my theme and ways of being.

Life, Personal Development, Stratejoy

Week 2 of HoCo Guest Interview Thoughts

Week 2 of HoCo is Dreaming and Scheming for the new year. The live call isn’t available to me until tomorrow but I’ve got access to the guest interviews.

From the 1st interview with Cora Harrington, I ended up writing 2 sides of A4 notes. Little snippets of what I took from Cora that related to me. Self-care was one of the things she spoke about.

Having the work-life balance in order to take care of herself. Having that as a maintenance lifestyle. With all that’s going on in my life lately, it’s something I need to get back on track with.

I have to allow for giving and taking. I am allowed to give my time to others and to work with all other life happenings. But I have to ensure that I take back time for myself. Disconnect from everyone and technology around me for wet times to allow myself me-time I deserve.

The world isn’t going to fall to pieces if I don’t respond right away or not tick off something from my task list. I don’t have to post on Facebook or check in daily. Ultimately my time is mine and it’s down to me on how I spent it.

As well as self-care, I need to express what I want out of life to those close to me. Have that close-knit circle of friends that I can talk to. They can help me better myself. They might say I can do better then what I’ve already done I have to take this as a compliment, they think I can rise up to the occasion. It’s a thank you moment. I shouldn’t be afraid to tell them about my drama. Those that shoot me down or want me to stay where I am to suit their conformable then I don’t need them in my life. I don’t have space for those who aren’t going to support and encourage me to live my dreams. I don’t need a big circle. They might be being realistic, which isn’t necessarily negative. They might see a structure I haven’t in order to get me to my dreams.

I also need to know what I’m good at and ask for help with the things I’m not good at. I can’t be amazing at everything. Someone else can do/ help with those things to get me there.

While listening to this first interview I turned my phone into silent to try work on one task at a time, to prevent distraction. I felt I did a lot better than last week and paused it twice. I felt I got more out of the interview. That’s also what I did with the second interview; only pausing once.


The second interview with Erin Falconer I liked because she spoke about getting shit done. With that being my quarterly goal, I felt more compelled to listen.

What am I guilty of doing?

Giving my focus to everyone and thing around me causing me to have self-indulgent and guilty behaviour. Doing things for others to be liked or because I feel guilty if I didn’t give them my time. Erin spoke of only having so much personal resource; cut this behaviour out and be and do with others as you’d want from them.

The other thing I took from the interview is what Erin said about our perception of things and how can plan for things in life. There are times where I take the things that come up in life negatively. It’s ME.

I’m the one who chooses to see the situation. I cannot control half of the things in life but I do get to chose what they mean to me. So why not choose the most helpful/positive view of the situation. See it as a gift, not the worse thing that’s happened to me.

I can review these feelings as for how my energy is feeling. I can do this in daily life too. I can ask myself what’s my energy like? Am I exhausted or is it intact?

Lately with how I’ve been seeing things I’ve become overwhelmed and exhausted causing my energy levels to drop. This isn’t a sustainable way of living. By doing this, checking-in, I can get a handle on what really matters to me. That way I can do more of the things that make me happy and less of everything else. Cause why else would I want to do it? If I don’t want to celebrate something; goal related or the big things in life, do I really want to do it?

The celebration helps to keep energy levels up or acknowledging the small things along the way. I will have to get comfortable with “bragging” about things. This week is about planning for the new year ahead. Can I plan if I don’t really fully understand who I am and where I want to go in life?

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What would make 2019 meaningful?

When I think of 2019 being meaningful or magical I think moving into our new home would make it such a year. moving into our own home isn’t just a big commitment to each other it also symbolises freedom to me. Giving me the physical and mental space to allow me to explore who I am as a person without being under a parents roof.

That is now only months away. But that hasn’t stopped me trying to be the person I want to be. Working through The Holiday Council allows me to really think about what I’m doing and what I am doing to help me get there for the new year. There were some big changes this year and I know some a due in the new year. Being the strong person I know I can be, working on my self should be a walk in the park.


Watched: The Dark Knight > 2.5 out of 5

Goals, Life, Personal Development

Shift Plan Review

In October 2017, I completed The Shift Plan created by Kate Swoboba. The tool was helpful to get an idea for what I wanted to change. But once I wrote it up, I didn’t look at it again other then put in my calendar to review this past October. Well, it’s clearly past October and I’ve had it on my task list since. After listening to this second interview for week 1 HoCo, one of the questions Elizabeth Dialto asks herself:

What would I never what to do again or resent?

The shift plan review being on my task list and me seeing it each day is one of them for me. So I thought I’d do it right now, then that’s it. Being week 1 of HoCo and reviewing the past year it’ll be good to look at a different route to make me see the past as a whole. To look at the original post: click here. I am going to do each in its categories again like the original to separate it more clearly.

Personal Growth/Fulfilment/How I feel about me:

Easeful, patient and gentler with myself; I had moments of this and I choose easeful was as a goal for the year but I have committed to this 100%? I do become hard on myself and by overwhelming myself. I’ve been stressed not easeful. I believe I have worked well on the being confident in my abilities, speaking up for myself and to be proud, work on my goals and be me. I feel more like I’m becoming myself and speaking up for what I believe in. I’m being more honest with myself, open with writing and to my loved ones. On the score out of 10 for this slide of the shift plan I would give myself a 7 for being me, confident in my abilities and speaking up for myself. The difference I’d like to see and realise in myself is working on being easeful, patience and gentler with myself.

Intimate and Romantic Relationships

Looking at the statement from October 2017, I’m sticking with 2 out of 10 that I gave myself in yesterday’s post. I haven’t worked on my intimate pleasure. Although I’m being more patient with my partner’s limitations.

Personal Relationships/Friendships

I’d give myself a 5 out of 10; I have been cherishing my friendships. Making more time for them. I’ve begun to say no when it’s something I don’t want to do or like to do. Leading me to not keep promises I know I couldn’t keep. That way I keep the promises I do make. So far I feel this is the first category I have been doing completely.

Career/Work

I don’t currently have stability and love for my job at the same time. I have periods of loving the job when I’m with customers but the job as a whole, I don’t. I’ve no stability but with the new job starting in the new year I’m hoping this will change.

Money/Abundance

With the job I’m currently in, I don’t have control over my income as my hours vary, causing me uncertainty what comes in at the end of each month. That hasn’t stopped me budgeting, saving, going on holidays and trips out to have the experiences that make me happy. Again this new job will allow me to have more control as I’ll know the exact amount each month. Plus if need be I can do extra shifts. Being at ease with my income might be insight.


Even though I haven’t been consciously working on the plan itself most are things in my life I’ve wanted to work on. By doing this review I’ve completed the goal which I can cross off. Allowing me to focus on what week 2 and 3 of HoCo bring me. I am putting not being easeful, patient and gentle on myself and no exploring a new level of intimacy and pleasure on my leaving behind in 2018. These are things I want to work on in years to come.


There were a couple other things j wanted to note from what I took away from the guest interview.

1. Not overthinking, making up stories on things that haven’t happened or I feel I can observe and be respective of. If I need to know more it’ll come to me. Land in my consciousness when it needs to be.

2. There are priorities that are not needed over function, for example, I don’t need to have a blow out/be a baby about things. Let’s say I’m hungry, I have things to make a pasta bake in the house but I fancy a pizza takeaway. Most of the time I need to prioritise making the pasta bake. It’ll save me money and I can go to the supermarket the next day to buy a pizza. The time it takes to make a pasta bake is similar to the time it’ll take a pizza to arrive. Plus a lot cheaper. Prioritise the best for me at the time.

I’ve never finished the exercise bike declutter for my declutter challenge as someone is due to collect it this evening. Week 1 is gonna soon been 100% complete.

Life, Personal Development, Stratejoy

Week 1 of HoCo Nearly Complete

I’ve finished week 1 worksheets for HoCo. I wrapped up how I’m feeling for the slices in my life.

My highest score was a 7 out of 10. These were for: friendships and significant other.

Next for 6 out of 10 was for my career slice. 5 out of 10 was for my physical space, the pursuit of passion, finances and connect to self. I didn’t have any 4s. 3 out of 10 was for contribution/legacy and wellness. Then 2 out of 10 was for sex life. And 1 out of 10 was for spirituality.

I did have a zero which was for family/parenting. Seeing as we don’t have kids and they aren’t in the cards for 2019 I wrote: “not ready for children right now, maybe once we’re married and settled in our home”.

The last part of week 1 was to choose a photo that best represents 2018. I found this difficult as I don’t take many photos. I decided to choose the finished photo of my dragon tattoo that I had done this year. I choose this because I was feeling great for having had it done; an experience I wanted. But I was sore in that area for having it done. I feel it represents my year because I had some amazing experiences but I have had some periods of being in pain and times of emotion. The unrest and growth in one.

Over this week I am grateful to take my experiences and mental strength into 2019 with me. I am grateful to leave the frustration and anger behind in 2018.

I’ve just my ritual challenge, which was published to the blog yesterday, and the declutter challenge left of week 1. O and the last guest interview. I’ve asked my mum about helping me advertise the bike and I have gone through my file box on the first run.

There is 1 month left of 2018. After this week I feel 2018 has served me well even with the downs, it’s made me stronger to bring in the New Year.


Watched: Batman Begins (2012) > 2.5 out of 5