What is Life Teaching You?

“Take an honest inventory of the education you already have – the years you have lived, the trials you have endured, the skills you have learned along the way”

“If you are a young person, open your eyes wide and let the world educate you to the fullest extent”

by Elizabeth Gilbert

I don’t remember much of my childhood. I have some home videos that were made during this time. Watching them, I know I’m watching myself, either on my own or with family members.

But I don’t remember these events happening. I suppose the videos put something in my mind about how I was brought up. If it wasn’t for these videos, I wouldn’t even know about the start of my life.

Memories are strange things. What inside our brains decided which memories to remember or to forget? Where do they go the ones we’ve forgotten?

In 2013 I started scrapbooking. Both for photos and mementoes. At first, I needed to collect everything I did and place something in one of these books. Now I want to keep the important memories. I keep tickets, old cards, letters. I buy a post card when visiting somewhere new. This postcard can represent the whole day. Rather than buying stuff just for the sake of doing so.

Now I want to keep the important memories. I keep tickets, old cards, letters. I buy a post card when visiting somewhere new. This postcard can represent the whole day. Rather than buying stuff just for the sake of doing so.

Least my home doesn’t get cluttered. Neither do my memories.

The earliest memory that I do remember, is me playing in the back garden at one of my old houses. Going in because of the rain. The next morning realising that I’d left a school book outside.

I guess that sticks in my mind for the fact I need to take responsibility for the things I own/borrow.

Going through school wasn’t very entertaining. I got through it just like everyone else. I had people bullying me due to the fact I was thin or that most of my friends were guys. Still are to this day.

I overcame stage fright, dancing. My confidence has always been low, socially. I put my head down and got on with the work. Found I was good at IT. Enjoyed reading.

By the time you’re supposed to know what you want to do with your life. I didn’t. I was good at things so they were the subjects I continued to learn. As staying in education was what I thought I had to do.

From this, even though I love to learn, I couldn’t stick to learning in an education setting. I’ve a ton of qualifications. Most I don’t even use anymore or remember what I learnt.

I worked alongside education. I’ve been a pizza takeaway assistant, a play centre assistant, a bakery assistant, a leisure assistant, a stockroom assistant, a kennel assistant, a trainee veterinary nurse, a care assistant. I’ve volunteered at a couple of animal charities along the way too.

An assistant is something I seem to be drawn too. From each of my roles, I’ve learned what I do or don’t like, or want to help in some way. I just can’t do it in certain ways.

My mums’ ex-husbands have taught me what I don’t want from a guy. Even her current husband, still teaches me I don’t want hostility in the house.

It doesn’t matter how old or young you are. Life teaches us things all the time. Nothing is likely to change that. What we learn, teaches us about ourselves, how we want to behave, what we want to do. How and if we share this with others.

Elizabeth Gilbert so far has taught me that writing is for yourself. Be the creativity you want to be. That’s what makes your work original and authentic. Everyone may have an opinion, may pigeonhole your work. But what others do with or say about your work once you’ve shared it can’t be controlled by yourself.

But what others do with or say about your work once you’ve shared it can’t be controlled by yourself. It shouldn’t be.

How your work/creativity works for yourself is the most important thing.

A Day of Indecision and The Joy Equation

I’ve had a lot of things go through my mind today. It’s been hard to concentrate on one thing. I need to do this, that. I want to get this done. I’ll do that. I could do that. A day of indecision. Within this indecision, I’ve been able to be somewhat productive.

Food shop. Hair. Doggie walk. The Joy Equation. Yoga. In between work and some food.

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One of the things that I suddenly decided to do at the last minute was completing The Joy Equation.

For anyone who hasn’t heard of this; it’s a personal development type course working on figuring out your core values and big dreams. A 6-week course that into a topic per week. Joining a community of woman who is working to creating a meaning to their lives; working towards their goals.  This is my view of the course. The main site page of the course, on the link above, will explain all so much better. The author allows the community to share the links. I have written all this on my own accord; gaining nothing by doing so. 

It may be designed a 6-week course but it certainly took me longer than that. Three months in fact. But I have got there.

My Mission/Purpose Statement:

Have acceptance and connection with myself, be present for my family and a force for positive change.

My Core Values:

  • Health
  • Simplicity
  • Balance
  • Adventure
  • Connection
  • Radiance
  • Laughter
  • Acceptance

I’ve already written my six big goals and four goal declarations. These can be found here.

At the end of the workbook, there is a My Vision page where I can sum up the main points of the six weeks. This I have scanned and put on my wall along with my other sheets.

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This isn’t the first time I have done this course. I did it a couple of years ago when my mind wasn’t in a good place. It helped me process my wondering mind.

Now that I have finished the course. I was curious what the differences were from my course answers from nearly three years ago. Getting to older workbook out, I saw there was a slight difference with mostly similarities. Three years ago, I was at university. Let’s see:

My Mission/Purpose Statement (Three Years Ago):

To celebrate the joy, make a difference to animals and nourish those around me.

My Core Values (Three Years Ago):

  • Health
  • Love
  • Family
  • Balance
  • Growth
  • Adventure
  • Openness
  • Outdoors

My Six Big Dreams (Three Years Ago):

  1. Travel around the world, seeing different cultures and ways of life
  2. Own a beautifully, energy efficient green (help the environment) home
  3. Make a difference in the animal care/welfare world
  4. Get married for life and have kids
  5. Experience joy for my whole life, accept and be happy – no anti-depressants
  6. Nourish all the people/relationships in my life

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I believe I have changed mindset quite a bit in the last few years. Something like this I find can prove it.

Whether it’s a course like this or your own way of developing and reviewing yourself and your goals. Doing personal development can lead you to know where you may want to go in life and yourself. Everyone does develop without consciously putting the work in.

Have you done this course or one similar? Do you do something else entirely to help yourself develop and complete your goals? What are your goals?

It would be interesting to see other accounts of personal development and goal storming.

 

Monthly Review: July 2017

I haven’t done a proper review of a month before. So bare with me. I want to get into the habit of regular reviews in order for me to take accountability and know where I need to focus the next month.

I think I want to do it in section; break it up a little to help me understand all the goals I place on myself.

Journaling

I’m doing very well so far. I’m journaling daily. Whether it’s something on my mind about my day or what I’ve been inspired by. When I write I come up with goals within the moment.

  • Relax in the bath > I haven’t even started with this one. To begin with, I don’t have a bath in my parents household. It’s a shower only bathroom. May have to use the bath at my in-laws.
  • Think of a blog name > Well I can tick this one off. √ My Mind Medicine 
  • Relaxation Techniques > I have started this one. Tried two from my module yesterday. A post on these will be published in the up-coming weeks

 

Holiday Council

I will talk about this in more detail when it comes to Holiday Council season. For now, here is a link for you.

At a Glance Calendar

  • Date night √
  • Call/visit my dad and grandma √
  • Long weekend off work √
  • Birthday √
  • Baby shower √
  • Yoga > 12 times √
  • 100 √

My at a Glance calendar has been successful this month. All have been ticked off. Some of these topics will be published within the upcoming weeks.

The Year Ahead

I think I have been incorporating Cherish into my life. Spending time with friends and family as much as I can. But due to the fog in my mind, I could be doing this better by putting it in my own love of things and mindset.

  • Family and Friends > √ I’m giving this a tick for this month. Seen all my family apart from my big brother and kids and my middle sister and kids. The rest I have seen. Some on multiple occasions. Due to a number of birthdays this month, I have seen friends weekly. My other half I feel I need to cherish more. Although we do spend time together and had a long weekend off, I need to get my mind back to positive and lift the fog.
  • Emotionally, physically and financially healthy > I believe I’m on the right path for these. I’m being honest with myself and those around me about my feelings. Talking with my other half. Having referred myself to Rightsteps. Starting the positive steps course on Friday. Physically I feel like shit. I have had my second blood test for my Vitamin D. I haven’t heard anything to assume my levels are back to normal. But yesterday I booked another doctor appointment to see what they can do about me still feeling shit. I also booked in with a sexual health clinic to help that side of things. Financially, we’ve been able to save a good amount up to now. More than the 100 a month that’s on my At a Glance Calendar.
  • Build up my Career > As you’ll find out tomorrow on my daily post. I’ve been offered the opportunity to review and update care plans/system. Hopefully, this will build up my career for any other future opportunities.

 

The Joy Equation

This one I do talk about in a future post. But again here is the link. I’ll just do the goal declarations this month.

  • Research, where I want to travel > Have not started.
  • Research, how to help others > I do help people daily in my job. I do want to see if there is more I could do. In a way, I haven’t started this either.
  • Develop a daily journal practice > Woo, I have started this one. Although, I don’t want to tick this one off just yet. I want to make sure I have the habit locked down.
  • Exercise at least four times a week > Yoga 12 times this month. Plus there are walks I do that I don’t mark down. Maybe I should? Looking at what my phone has logged. I hit over 10,000 steps for one day of July. Coming close on a couple of others. Averaging 3673 steps per day. Total steps of 110,192 steps for the month. I think that’s amazing. Just think what it could come to if I have my phone on my all the time.

 

So there you have it a review of July. How did your July go?