Q2 Goal 2018: Frugal Research Started

Money is very tight. It’s hard saying no to going out with friends because it’s not doable. I can’t say yes otherwise I for fit a tank of fuel.Saying yes and no both have butterfly effects.

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I’ve started doing my frugal research. Put frugal living in a search engine and 1000s of pages come up. It’s mind-boggling. I’ve certainly a lot of thinking and research to do to find what best suits me.

So far I’ve found a list of books that talk about frugal living. I’ll first look at our local library for that. They may have other options too. Another list I have found is ‘How to make a frugal budget’.

I think this will be best once we’be moved and everything is less hectic.

The Simplicity of No Wardrobe.

A couple of days without a wardrobe. Using my curtain rail for my clothes is growing on me. The simplicity of it is making me feel good. Maybe not the use of my curtain rail. I like the fact I can shut my curtains properly. Thank goodness for blinds.

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IDEAS! No bulky wardrobes. Rails attached to walls. Spacing with no doors. I cannot wait for my own home. I better keep on saving if I wanna have a simple wardrobe.

Goal: No Chocolate Update

I realised yesterday that I am achieving my goal of not having chocolate. But then I thought how do I know I can cross it off my list as achieved? I have a goal but nothing to measure my success with. So I have decided to extend my No Chocolate goal to be:

Have no chocolate for 1 year

I’m doing well so far. Going through my daily goal actions in my diary I found the last time I ate chocolate was on the 29th January 2018. Good going seeing as we’ve just past Easter.

Let’s see where the rest of my no chocolate year takes me. January 2019, fingers crossed, will bring a post of me achieving this goal.

Have you ever gone without having chocolate?

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I really can talk about saying goodbye to wardrobes.

Another step towards moving home. My wardrobes have been taken down into parts. Ready to be taken away tomorrow. I know it’s a wardrobe but I’ll miss it. A big corner walk-in wardrobe. Without it, my room looks bigger. You can tell it hasn’t been moved since it came. The wall behind it is a different shade of purple.

I’m glad to have had some time to relax today. I spent most of the afternoon sleeping. I have a lovely head cold. It’s taken the majority of my energy. Gotta get rested up. Get through tomorrow.

External Validation

Can I truly be myself if I keep looking for external validation?

I can’t control other people’s thoughts. I can’t control outcomes. I won’t experience success or failure until it’s upon me. There are some things that are beyond my control.

Why try to manipulate my brain power, if I can’t control what I can’t control?

Surely, I’ll get tired faster, leading towards failure.

If I try to control, how am I being present in the now?

Other people’s thoughts are their own. Thoughts are just thoughts. They come and go. Other people’s perspectives are different to my own. We may look at the same piece of art and see and feel different things. We may watch the same film, at the same time, in the same screen. You may have an insight. I may not. It was just an alright film to me.

How can I become attached to other people’s expectations, reactions or values when they’re not mine?

To be myself and to act in accordance with my values; I need to release other people’s validations. I am the one that is happy doing what I love. I’m the one experiencing the emotions, completing the actions. I’m the only one who can be me.

#3 Release others values, expectations and reactions – Molly Mahar

 

March 2018 Action Chart

I’ve been looking back through my March daily goal actions in my diary. Seeing when I last ate chocolate. No chocolate goal update on your screens tomorrow. Looking through I realised I did not complete a chart for March. This is because I did a Quarterly Review rather than a Monthly Review.

As I like to look back to see how well I am doing with my goals I thought I would complete the chart now.

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As you can see, the no chocolate goal has been the best one out of them all. But I’m glad to see that I am was doing something towards my other goals. I even started a quarter 2 goal in March.

The 5 times doing the BSL goal in March meant that I was able to complete the goal of completing my introductory course. The time in March when I did the Overcoming work I realised that I needed to mark it down as a low priority. I also decided to say goodbye to the YCY goal altogether.

Goals are not set in stone. They’ll change just like life does. Some get to the point where they are not meaningful to a person. By continuing on a goal that doesn’t resonate can do more harm than good. I believe that completing reviews regularly on goals is healthy and will help them to be achieved.