My First No Telly Tuesday

It has been the first since setting the goal the other day. I did well. I didn’t watch telly at home. I say at home because I’ve been working. Customers have wanted to watch the telly. This was an exception to the rule.

When I was at home, I spent some time with Dave before he went to work. We started a card game; a DC deck building game. We are trying out a new expansion pack. The first crisis one I believe. It’s been put to one side to finish hopefully tomorrow.

Still no news good or bad about the house. I do think he’s dragging it out to get a better deal elsewhere. I’m gonna ring the estate agents to see if they’ve contacted the vendor directly and see if they can get a real reason out of him.

I feel I’m getting my heart broken with this one.

BSL Video Series

Welcome to my Introduction to British Sign Language Series. Over the past year, I have been learning BSL. Learning the basics and being able to start having conversations.

Usually, once I’ve completed some learning if I don’t have it incorporated into my life, it takes a back seat. Some to the point I have forgotten it once I may need it. I didn’t want this to happen with the sign language.

I may not have the need to use sign language in my daily life right now. But I would love to be able to communicate with those who use this method. One day have it within my job role to continue helping people regardless of their communication abilities.

To help me re-cap on what I have learnt and to be able to look back to signs that I don’t use regularly at any point in my life, I decided to make videos. These videos are of me signing what I have learnt. They range from 30 seconds to 2 minutes; depending on the amount within a certain topic.

One of my goals was to share these videos. Being that my blog is now 1 years old and to prove to myself that I can show others what I have accomplished. Building up my courage and confidence in myself and my work. I decided now would be the right time.

Whether learning BSL is something you’ve wanted to do or you just want to watch the videos to see what I have done. Each month, I will be sharing with you a new video.

Let’s begin; here is a video showing the signs that can be done for BSL:

Up Next Month: Alphabet

No Telly Tuesdays

One of my goals on my list is to have No Telly Days. Since starting with the goal, I have had no telly days, but I haven’t really got any steps to move towards this goal properly.

I feel instead of a cross-off-able goal, this should be an ongoing/for life goal to have as part of who I am. But I feel I need a bit more to it to have it be a more credible goal.

What I think will help is to select one day each week where I don’t watch telly. I’m drawn to a Tuesday, as I’m writing this. On my goal page, I am going to have a section of ongoing/life goals that I want to be intertwined with my values.

No Telly Tuesdays is going to be one of them.

Seeing as I’m a community care worker, I can’t tell a customer to turn the telly off if that’s what they want to do. As it is them watching the telly and picking the shows etc, I’m going to have an exception to the rule.

No Telly Tuesdays – doesn’t count if I’m in a customer home.

I’ve told Dave about my decision. He felt a little happier about it when I replied to his question that he is allowed to watch telly on a Tuesday if he wishes. I’ll either be not at home or I’ll be in another room.

I’m not going to force him to stop something just cause I am. As of today No Telly Tuesday is gonna come into effect.

Do you have days without watching telly?

Wedding Venue Reserved

We’ve reserved our venue for our wedding. Which also means we’ve selected a date. On my dreams list, I’ve put to be married in 2021. As it happens we’re gonna be getting married in 2020!

In less then two years time I’ll be a wife.

I’m excited but there’s a lot to do and to pay for.

First step we need to book a provisional date/time for the registrar to ensure we can get someone to marry us on the day we have selected with the venue. It’s gonna cost us £30 to get the povisional date and time booked.

Second step is to pay the deposit for the venue. It’s gonna got us £500 for the deposit. We saw the venue today for the second time, this time the coordinator showing us round and talking us through things.

We’ve told a select few our date for the wedding. It’s been happiness all round.

The End of Q2 Review

Wow, we are halfway through 2018. Time is going quickly. Whatever you do, make the most of your time.

The Past 6 Months 

I am on the road to being the woman I want to be. I do have selfish moments, where I become lazy and expect others to do things for me. I’m becoming calmer in myself but still, have those rush days. I’m taking more control of my life and experiences.

I have been incorporating my theme of the year, Joy, into my life more in this first half of the year. I have been having experiences, having time with loved ones and getting shit done.

But being with family has had its challenges. Family is what get each other through. We need to be there for one another, things have been changing rapidly. Seeing my grandma decline quickly has been the hardest part for me over the past 6 months.

The Next 6 Months

I am craving couple independence. Being deliberate and limitless with our home. Getting it right for us. I am craving calm. Being able to be comfortable with silences and having nothing planned. But I also wanna knock things off the to-do-list.

To make sure I am recommitted to my yearly theme of Joy; I need to choose what I want to focus on now. Then only focus on those as a priority. But also take time for me and as a couple.

I think the best way of doing this is to plan only part of my time. Things come up and cause me to rush and stress. I need to focus on one or two things and not try doing everything all at once. I need to continue with my monthly review, see what I am doing and if I’m still on the right track.

Blackboard Tasks

I feel the following are those I need to focus on in the next quarter:

  • CBT Course
  • BSL Blog Series
  • Loving my Body
  • Have my Hair done
  • Have a Home
  • Day Trips

Quarter 3 Goals

  1. Make Our Home Ours

Being in the process of buying our first home. I want this quarter to be focusing on making it ours. It needs a full gutting; a lot of work doing to it. I want this to be in support of having a welcoming home to come back to and have our couple independence.

I would like our home to be liveable by Christmas 2018.

2. BSL Blog Series Set Up

This is another goal on my dreams page. Setting this BSL series up is getting out of my comfort zone. Having videos of myself completing signs to hopefully teach others. I have 3 done so far. But as I have set up for the series to start next week I have some work to do.

I would like it all to be set up by the end of the quarter ready for it to be published through the next few quarters.

Past 6 Month Reviews

January 
February
March – End of Quarter 1
April
May

Long Overdue Catch-up

I can’t wait. In 2 days my best mate is coming to stay. We’re off to see Demi Lovato in concert.

From the sounds of it my friend, E has been having a bad time of it. Effecting her mental health. It will be good to have a proper catch-up. It’s been nearly 2 years since we last saw each other.

We write to one another regularly. E and I met in year 7; we were in the same form at school and did ICT together. Out of all our school friends, we’ve stuck around for one another.

At the right time, I want to ask her to be my maid of honour. It will be long overdue when we see each other. The eeks are bubbling.

Personal Ground Rules

During 2017 I started to make a list of personal ground rules for myself to live by. I’ve had these written down on My Dreams, Goals and Bucket List page since I’ve thought of them. But they’ve just been sat there.

Whether I have been living by them I couldn’t even say. I’m guilty of forgetting what they even are.

Not really personal than are they?


  1. Don’t back out of plans or make excuses due to something “better” coming up. Side Note: If I don’t want to go. Don’t agree in the first place.
  2. Say no to the things that don’t resonate with me / I don’t believe in.
  3. Share my opinions and concerns.
  4. Focus on one task at a time
  5. Schedule ME TIME each week. Stick to it!
  6. Have Integrity
  7. Try new things

Here I have 7 ground rules. Reading over them I feel that I am somewhat living by them. But I could be more actively doing so. I feel I need to regularly look to see what they are and if I figure I need to add others, then I should add more.

I know here I’m writing I should do this and I should do that. I don’t want to be doing things I feel I should be doing. Look at ground rule 2; don’t agree to things that don’t resonate with me / I don’t believe in.

I don’t want to have rules I should be following. I want to have these type of things be the sense of the person I am. Get me out of my comfort zone but also being honest and open about who I want to be.

I’ve decided to move the list of ground rules off My Dreams, Goals and Bucket List so that I’ve written about them more on a personal level. As one of my goals on the list is to make personal ground rules, I can now link this post to that goal. Allowing me to refer back to it when I wish.