Week 2 of HoCo is Dreaming and Scheming for the new year. The live call isn’t available to me until tomorrow but I’ve got access to the guest interviews.
From the 1st interview with Cora Harrington, I ended up writing 2 sides of A4 notes. Little snippets of what I took from Cora that related to me. Self-care was one of the things she spoke about.
Having the work-life balance in order to take care of herself. Having that as a maintenance lifestyle. With all that’s going on in my life lately, it’s something I need to get back on track with.
I have to allow for giving and taking. I am allowed to give my time to others and to work with all other life happenings. But I have to ensure that I take back time for myself. Disconnect from everyone and technology around me for wet times to allow myself me-time I deserve.
The world isn’t going to fall to pieces if I don’t respond right away or not tick off something from my task list. I don’t have to post on Facebook or check in daily. Ultimately my time is mine and it’s down to me on how I spent it.
As well as self-care, I need to express what I want out of life to those close to me. Have that close-knit circle of friends that I can talk to. They can help me better myself. They might say I can do better then what I’ve already done I have to take this as a compliment, they think I can rise up to the occasion. It’s a thank you moment. I shouldn’t be afraid to tell them about my drama. Those that shoot me down or want me to stay where I am to suit their conformable then I don’t need them in my life. I don’t have space for those who aren’t going to support and encourage me to live my dreams. I don’t need a big circle. They might be being realistic, which isn’t necessarily negative. They might see a structure I haven’t in order to get me to my dreams.
I also need to know what I’m good at and ask for help with the things I’m not good at. I can’t be amazing at everything. Someone else can do/ help with those things to get me there.
While listening to this first interview I turned my phone into silent to try work on one task at a time, to prevent distraction. I felt I did a lot better than last week and paused it twice. I felt I got more out of the interview. That’s also what I did with the second interview; only pausing once.
The second interview with Erin Falconer I liked because she spoke about getting shit done. With that being my quarterly goal, I felt more compelled to listen.
What am I guilty of doing?
Giving my focus to everyone and thing around me causing me to have self-indulgent and guilty behaviour. Doing things for others to be liked or because I feel guilty if I didn’t give them my time. Erin spoke of only having so much personal resource; cut this behaviour out and be and do with others as you’d want from them.
The other thing I took from the interview is what Erin said about our perception of things and how can plan for things in life. There are times where I take the things that come up in life negatively. It’s ME.
I’m the one who chooses to see the situation. I cannot control half of the things in life but I do get to chose what they mean to me. So why not choose the most helpful/positive view of the situation. See it as a gift, not the worse thing that’s happened to me.
I can review these feelings as for how my energy is feeling. I can do this in daily life too. I can ask myself what’s my energy like? Am I exhausted or is it intact?
Lately with how I’ve been seeing things I’ve become overwhelmed and exhausted causing my energy levels to drop. This isn’t a sustainable way of living. By doing this, checking-in, I can get a handle on what really matters to me. That way I can do more of the things that make me happy and less of everything else. Cause why else would I want to do it? If I don’t want to celebrate something; goal related or the big things in life, do I really want to do it?
The celebration helps to keep energy levels up or acknowledging the small things along the way. I will have to get comfortable with “bragging” about things. This week is about planning for the new year ahead. Can I plan if I don’t really fully understand who I am and where I want to go in life?