Life, Writing

Monthly Review: July 2018

My birthday month has come to an end. Another year older, I don’t know if I’m any wiser but I am better all around; mainly with my mental health.

We’re still waiting for the keys to the new house. The vendor solicitors are shockingly bad. Even our own solicitors are angry with them. I very much wish and know I’ll have the keys by the end of August. That will be my WOOP moment in my August monthly review.

This means that we haven’t been able to get started on my quarterly goal of making our home our own.

My second quarterly goal, on the other hand, I have been able to do something towards. I have done a few more BSL blog updates. I now have BSL video posts scheduled till December; I am doing them once a month.

In general, I think I have been lazier in July on doing most things. Even in everyday life tasks. I have been slumping in front of the telly mainly and watching films and the odd TV show.

I have decided that I am going to cut ties with the CBT course I signed myself up for in November of last year. Not an official course or anything. I have no desire to do anything else towards it.

I have decided that I am going to focus on my UCP course in my own time seeing as I’m on no deadline. Even though this isn’t an official course either, it has been good for my mental health.

I do have a WOOP moment for this month; I’ve been given my mums car. It wasn’t good that I had to pay for 4 new tyres within the first week but they are needed. Next month is MOT month so least it spreads the cost.

Blackboard Tasks

Looking back at the blackboard tasks I set at the last month; the first two I have already spoken about above. I haven’t really done much towards being mindful about loving my body. I have been able to go back to cooking proper meals and I have been walking. I have had my hair done which feels great, I just want it to look amazing all the time but it doesn’t work. Have a home is explained above.

The day trips one, I haven’t done any. Like I said I’ve been lazy this month. Day trips need to be kept on for sure.

August Blackboard Tasks:

  • Day Trips
  • Loving my Body
  • Have a Home
  • MOT
  • Girls Night
  • UCP Course
  • Research Photographers for the Wedding
  • Finish reading Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban Illustrated Edition



Goals, Life, Stratejoy, Writing

The End of Q2 Review

Wow, we are halfway through 2018. Time is going quickly. Whatever you do, make the most of your time.

The Past 6 Months 

I am on the road to being the woman I want to be. I do have selfish moments, where I become lazy and expect others to do things for me. I’m becoming calmer in myself but still, have those rush days. I’m taking more control of my life and experiences.

I have been incorporating my theme of the year, Joy, into my life more in this first half of the year. I have been having experiences, having time with loved ones and getting shit done.

But being with family has had its challenges. Family is what get each other through. We need to be there for one another, things have been changing rapidly. Seeing my grandma decline quickly has been the hardest part for me over the past 6 months.

The Next 6 Months

I am craving couple independence. Being deliberate and limitless with our home. Getting it right for us. I am craving calm. Being able to be comfortable with silences and having nothing planned. But I also wanna knock things off the to-do-list.

To make sure I am recommitted to my yearly theme of Joy; I need to choose what I want to focus on now. Then only focus on those as a priority. But also take time for me and as a couple.

I think the best way of doing this is to plan only part of my time. Things come up and cause me to rush and stress. I need to focus on one or two things and not try doing everything all at once. I need to continue with my monthly review, see what I am doing and if I’m still on the right track.

Blackboard Tasks

I feel the following are those I need to focus on in the next quarter:

  • CBT Course
  • BSL Blog Series
  • Loving my Body
  • Have my Hair done
  • Have a Home
  • Day Trips

Quarter 3 Goals

  1. Make Our Home Ours

Being in the process of buying our first home. I want this quarter to be focusing on making it ours. It needs a full gutting; a lot of work doing to it. I want this to be in support of having a welcoming home to come back to and have our couple independence.

I would like our home to be liveable by Christmas 2018.

2. BSL Blog Series Set Up

This is another goal on my dreams page. Setting this BSL series up is getting out of my comfort zone. Having videos of myself completing signs to hopefully teach others. I have 3 done so far. But as I have set up for the series to start next week I have some work to do.

I would like it all to be set up by the end of the quarter ready for it to be published through the next few quarters.

Past 6 Month Reviews

March – End of Quarter 1

Goals, Life, Writing

May 2018

Can someone please explain to me why the months are going by so fast? I’m still amazed that it’s another month gone. We are now starting the sixth month of 2018. Half of the year is nearly coming to an end.

May has been a very busy month for me. Thankfully, we did have a trip to Wales with friends. That was a wonderful week; it was much needed. May has also found us house hunting. We got to viewing number two and fell in love. We are currently week 3 in the process of buying it.

Fingers crossed the end of June will bring us having a date for the collection of keys or already having them.

Health wise I have been generally well in myself. I am getting off my anti-depressants. Only having them once or twice a week just to finish them off. I had my blood test re-done to find my Potassium levels are back to normal. This past week I have been more tired but I have been pushed at work. By the end of June and for July I’ll have an easier time of it.

My mum and I have had to start being more hands-on with caring for my Grandma as well. She has Dementia but it’s her physical abilities that are declining quickly. As my Grandad is caring for her 24/7 we are going in to sit with her and to provide morning care to give my Grandad a break. We are currently searching for a care company to be able to provide this support 7 days a week so everyone can have a break. Then we’ll go in and sit with her while my Grandad has time to himself.

This month also brought around my NVQ finishing. It has taken 11 months but I can finally say it is complete. I have also completed 2 out of 4 modules for my Life Coaching qualification.

I was also completing steps towards my goals; below you can see a chart to see how much of each I have done throughout May. Last night I was thinking that I am now actively doing pieces towards my goals that I feel writing each down in my diary and completing a chart at the end of the both isn’t as important to me any more.

Because of this, the chart below will be my last one. At the end of the day, I know when I have or haven’t completed steps towards my goals. I write about them regularly in my journaling, that I feel I am able to gauge how I am going towards the goals I am focusing on at the time.

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June is here.

What will it bring?

For me currently, the following is planned:

  • Looking after my Grandma
  • Survey for the house we are buying
  • Life Coaching Tutorial
  • Demi Lovato Concert with my friend E
  • Puppy Sitting for the in-laws
  • Final sitting for my tattoo
  • Micheal McIntyre Concert with Dave
  • Annual Leave
  • Dave’s Birthday
  • Steps Concert with B and our mums
  • Volunteering

That is a busy month of things to come. Of course, I have work around all that too. Work to me isn’t important enough to be included as that is just something I need to do.

There you have it. My month of May rounded up in a post. What did May bring for you?

Goals, Life

Monthly Review: April 2018

I say this every month but it still stands in my eyes. Hasn’t the month gone quick? I even had a customer say it’ll soon be Christmas!! I know life seems to be going at full speed lately but talking about Christmas for me is too early.

April has come to an end. I have started to wean myself off my anti-depressants and after the conversation with my new doctor today I don’t have to take so long to wean myself off them; on the tablet within my system basis. I believe the no chocolate goal is helping me. I don’t feel like there are times when I need to hibernate like when I’ve had chocolate. Another month went with no chocolate; GO ME!

I have started my Life Coaching Level 2 course at Newcastle College. I have passed my first module and halfway through my second. I feel this course is helping me learn the practical aspects of life coaching that I don’t get with the UCP course.

I’ve started my quarterly goal; daily movement. I have started to walk to placed more and had a couple of goes on my exercise bike. That’s twice it’s not getting used as a clothes hanger. Starting this goal was made a lot more motivating since moving home.

You guessed it. WE MOVED is the next achievement of this month. I say achievement more for the fact Dave and I now live together. Albeit not in our own place but with my parents. But since seeing the financial advisor today we have been told we are in the position to look for our own place. I got very giddy at this news!

I have done a couple of updates on my BSL video series but I do need to up my game if I want the whole series to be up and running by the end of July. So far I have 3 weeks worth up. But I guess this isn’t on top priority at the moment but it is happening. That I am not gonna go back on.

I did a few no telly days and had a week of no internet. Wow, that was hard. I believe I should do more of it. Next week may be my next chance as we are going away for the week on holiday. The usage of data is going to have to be limited seeing as I am running very low to my limit, if not already done over.

I have got closer to the end of my NVQ. I am now at 93.2%. So close to the end but still far away. I was told it be the beginning of April that I would complete but due to unforeseen circumstances this is not the case and will be towards the end of May now.

I even remembered to do my graph for the month. As you can see below I have been focusing on more selected areas in my life to complete rather than bits and pieces of all. I have found this to be more productive as I have got more done across these areas, getting me closer to the end.

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May is, fingers crossed, going to see the end of my NVQ. I am going to have a repeat of my blood test from March as I apparently have high potassium. Going to Wales for a week with a group of friends. My first friends holiday. We are going to another wedding fayre at a venue we want to view. I am going to volunteer one morning, continue with my Life Coaching course and start month 3 of my UCP course.


Goals, Life

March 2018 Action Chart

I’ve been looking back through my March daily goal actions in my diary. Seeing when I last ate chocolate. No chocolate goal update on your screens tomorrow. Looking through I realised I did not complete a chart for March. This is because I did a Quarterly Review rather than a Monthly Review.

As I like to look back to see how well I am doing with my goals I thought I would complete the chart now.

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As you can see, the no chocolate goal has been the best one out of them all. But I’m glad to see that I am was doing something towards my other goals. I even started a quarter 2 goal in March.

The 5 times doing the BSL goal in March meant that I was able to complete the goal of completing my introductory course. The time in March when I did the Overcoming work I realised that I needed to mark it down as a low priority. I also decided to say goodbye to the YCY goal altogether.

Goals are not set in stone. They’ll change just like life does. Some get to the point where they are not meaningful to a person. By continuing on a goal that doesn’t resonate can do more harm than good. I believe that completing reviews regularly on goals is healthy and will help them to be achieved.


Goals, Life, Mental Health

Q1 Review: 2018

The first 3 months of 2018 has come to an end. I feel like I’ve embodied my theme so far this year. I’m unconsciously working towards my big goals for the year too.

I’m becoming the woman I wanna be in the world. I’ve still got some work to do to reach my goals. Being a better me is always gonna be an ongoing priority for me.

Because of this and my daily writing, I feel I’m achieving my Q1 goal of being honest with others. I’m telling my story. I’m being true to myself. My mental health is better for it.

Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to complete my NVQ this quarter. It’s something I’m not able to control. There does seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel. Fingers crossed I’ll be able to complete by the end of April.

A number of things are gonna change by the end of April. By then I’ll have moved and Dave can move in too. Work is gonna be different as I’ll be living in a different area.

With the number of changes in April alone, I didn’t want my Q2 goals to be too taxing but still allow me to move forward in finding myself.

My first goal is:

  • Daily Movement

I need to focus on my health and body more. Really get into the habit to exercise. Make my body stronger. I struggle to scrape the ice off my windscreen. That should be a sign to build up my muscles right?

My second goal is:

  • Be Smart with my Resources

Within 10 days of being paid, I had £12 left. This £12 has been sat doing nothing for weeks because I can’t afford to pay anything with it. I’ve been relying on Dave and my mum to be able to live. It’s great having my partner and family to help me when needed but I need to be able to support myself all the time.

With being smart I wanna budget, really think about being more frugal with my life and think is it necessary to buy this? If I can afford to buy something that isn’t a must then I can afford to put it in the house fund.

If I wanna spend Christmas 2019 in our own home I really need to do as I say to others.

Here’s to a great quarter.

How has your quarter treated you?

Goals, Life

Monthly Review: February 2018

Sitting here looking out of the window, watching and listening to the weather, makes me feel like I have achieved something this month. Usually, I have a good sense of how my month has gone, but this month I don’t seem to have that.

The snow is falling, wind blowing, I’m thankful that I can hibernate from the bad weather. That I don’t have to navigate it like I did for work and family commitments yesterday.

I’ve always thought that I’ve had a fear of driving in snow. Yes, I don’t particularly like driving when the weather is bad, but the last two days have made me realise that that fear was my thoughts. I don’t have a fear, I’ve been letting my mind rule me. This means that I can cross off my goal of overcoming driving in snow.


I was thinking of removing the goal off my list completely but then I thought by crossing it off, it’ll be a reminder that my fear wasn’t a fear and I can accomplish overruling my mind and goals. I believe I’m gonna link this review for the goal on my list as a reminder to look back on.

February saw me, hand in my notice on the office side of my role and change my availability to look after myself and try to find some balance in my life. I finished my therapy sessions which brought insights to me from time to time.

I had the start of my second tattoo, went on a trip a trip to York and had a weekend away in Southhampton.

I feel like I am prioritising myself more this month to allow myself to carry on in the future. This is what I want to continue doing. Finding a balance in my life so I can carry on with enjoying my job and my life.

Even with work and life happening, I’ve been able to look at my goals too. I liked seeing my activities on a bar chart last month, so I’ve decided to do so again. I like it because I can easily see which goals I’ve focused on and how much.

I am very proud to say that I have gone the whole month of February without CHOCOLATE!!!! There are times I think of having some and many temptations when I’ve said no. I’m glad I have the willpower in me. Let’s continue with that goal. I feel I have more energy.

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What can March bring?

I’m starting March off with some annual leave. Have some relaxation, spend time with friends and family, including a trip down to Portsmouth. Hopefully, the weather improves.

I have another NVQ meeting, I’m starting a couple of CPD courses from FutureLearn, I’m gonna be going down to London by myself for the UCP meet up. Plus I wanna work on myself and my goals too.

What is your March gonna bring?